I need advice as well..my son is 16months old and I want another baby but I feel as if I will be taking away from my son by having another child..on top of that my son is SOOOO Active that I am not sure if I could have another baby when I feel that I will be in the terrible two's and not be able to manage..

 

 

karina

This is amusing, I really always thought two in half years apart was just perfect for my kids. Until I got pregnant with number four 8 months after number three was born. 

 

Now, while I can admit I'm dreading having two in diapers and the closeness in age. I've started noticing (after the shock that I am pregnant again when this was not in the plans at all).

That my oldest who is 6 while helpful, he isn't really close to Logan. He's big brother close if that makes sense. So he'll be very much so the same to the new baby. However when my second was born, my oldest was so involved. They are two in half years apart, both in school (middle son is in prek and oldest is in K) And they have more in common, so it works great for them as far as their personalities.

Now I thought number three was my last, so for the last 10 months, he'd been so babied, so attached to me, Well, now that I'm having another I'm positive I'll do the same to the last. Because it really will be my last (I'm making sure of it this time around).

Now the diapers part. I planned my current youngest son, he's just over two years apart from my second son as far as the age gap.  My second son didn't potty train right away, like my oldest did when my second was born. so I actually had two in diapers.

Now of course I cloth diaper so it would be a bit different, My youngest is a big baby, and my second son is actually small (in my opinion) and so not to long after birth My youngest and my middle son were wearing the same size diapers, and then my middle potty trained.

It really wasn't that bad at all. I just had more diapers to wash, but I wash them often enough that it was one load every couple of days.

So thinking back to that, I'm not dreading the newbie and my third being so close, and I actually hope this means my oldest and my middle will stay close and my two youngest will stay close. In fact I hope the closeness brings them together later on in their life.

My sister and I are 3 years apart, and growing up, we hated each other. To this day we still fight, but we are closer, it just took alot to get us there. So I think it really depends on how you bring them up,not really their age gap. Giving them their seperation when you can see its needed. For example, my oldest wanted a guitar which we bought him for his birthday recently. My middle son loves going places with me, So last weekend he went with me and my mother and sister, while my oldest stayed home with my husband and eventually ended up at the guitar store. Every kid needs to be on their own sometimes, but my two oldest share a room, and we've told my oldest we will move my middle son to share a room with the third if he's ready for his own room, he doesn't want it yet. eventually it will happen I'm sure, just as my 3 year old would want his own room eventually.

 

Ok Sorry about the long story, I hope this helps you out with your question.